An explosive child, we all had one! Of course, since research has shown that children between the ages of 1 and 3 are totally dominated by their emotions. It is not me who says it, it is the pediatrician Catherine Gueguen and several other researchers in the field of early childhood. Stop worrying; your 2-and-a-half-year-old toddler doesn't have an opposition disorder, nor does he do something about it. Presumably, your child is the most normal. Nevertheless, you must accompany your little ones in the management of their emotions to prevent them from having to deal with this challenge for much of their lives. The good news is that even if your toddler's brain is immature, it is at the same time extremely malleable! So here are some tips to help you keep your cool during this difficult time and allow your child to grow up in style. Read it all the way to discover our cool contest! 1- Be emphatic This is the first thing to do and probably the most difficult! Staying calm when our child is in the middle of an emotional outburst remains a (very) great ordeal for any parent. That said, your little one has the right to be angry, to be sad or upset, it's perfectly normal, even more so when you're 2 or 3 years old. Telling him that it is common to feel emotions, that everyone experiences this kind of feeling, even adults, is the first thing to do. Then let him know that you will give him a hand to manage this big storm that inhabits him. 2-Reprimand inappropriate gestures, not emotion Second, explain the real reasons for your intervention. Being angry or very excited is one thing, but throwing toys, hitting your brother or insulting your parents is another. That's the essence of what your child needs to understand. This type of behaviour is socially unacceptable. Surely this is his way of conveying his anger, so he will eventually have to discover others, more appropriate. That said when you intervene with your child be clear about why you are doing it. 3- Set up a quiet corner Step three, give your child new ways to manage their emotions. Instead of telling him what not to do, explain to him what he should do. I really like the analogy of the tennis coach. Imagine for a moment that you are taking a tennis class and the coach spends most of his time telling you what not to do (don't put your foot there, don't hit the ball so hard, don't move like that) but don't give you any clues about what you should do to improve yourself. Would you become a good tennis player? Probably not. Keep in mind that you are there to explain to your child how he or she might act. The ideal is to set up a small ritual to return to calm. Create a quiet corner that is pleasing to the child. Let's be honest, who among you sits on the first step of the stairs when he gets carried away? Not me! So set up this space with your child to make it feel good, place a soft towel, a stuffed animal, a pretty poster and the Back to calm kit The Beautiful Combines. Give him tips to calm down, depending on what he likes and what makes him happy. (Make legos, bubbles, playdough.) Above all, congratulate him when he uses this corner properly. 4- Put words on his emotions In a fourth step, take a few minutes to discuss the emotions that led the child to the corner back to calm. Wait until he is calm and go back to what happened. You will realize that anger is in fact a big disappointment mismanaged or even came from a vexing situation. The small pictograms in the kit will help you popularize emotions. For example, one experiences jealousy when one is unable to rejoice in the happiness of others. 5- Invite him to make a gesture of reparation If your child has made a mistake, find a way to make amends for his or her actions. If you run out of ideas, the little "Repair Gestures" slides included in the kit are a nice bank of ideas. The important thing is that the act committed does not go unpunished. For example, your child could fix what he broke or play for 30 minutes in the game of choosing the person he or she has hurt. Finally, remember that you are a role model. Also use the quiet return corner when you smell the hot soup. Seeing you do it, the child will understand better how to get there and above all will understand that everyone is going through all kinds of emotions. Do you like the concept? Until April 3, take part in the CONCOURS THE MORE GREAT COIN OF RETOUR IN CALME Thanks to the Back to the Quiet Kit of Les Belles Combines and the beautiful decorative objects created by Abricotine, Velvet Moustache, Tabaga Street Workshop And Wild Child, your little one's seizures will be much milder! To be won:
- A Back to calm kit The Beautiful Combines
- A Velvet Moustache Bear Cushion
- A poster "Return to calm zone" Abricotine
- A Little pink bear and its small plant Wild Child Company.
- A giant coloring poster Tabaga Street