Last year at the same date, I was struck by a great questioning concerning my use of the screens but also, and especially, concerning the role of model that I played with my children. President of a growing small business, I managed (and still manage) social media. I was totally in FOMO (Fear of missing out) mode. It was important to me to know everything that was happening on the page Facebook of my business, in real time! I also had, at that time, a 2 year old girl who demanded the screen at any time and could make a terrible crisis to get it! The documentary Bye by Alexandre Taillefer was a big boost for me! From then on, I set myself a challenge: that of not opening the screens in the presence of my children between 5 p.m. and 8 p.m. This challenge, I subsequently launched to a multitude of families. I invite you to read the article 5 @ 8 challenge without screens, to understand everything about this awareness and the emergence of this awareness campaign. A challenge that has lasted for over a year! It is clear that our family has taken up the challenge for 1 year now. The last year has taught me a lot about the why and how of screen management. I also understood that it was necessary to empower children in their own management of screens. Like everything The Beautiful Combines tend to suggest, we decided to put children at the center of their learning and gradually lead them towards self-regulation. Here are the essential points of my approach. Learning self-regulation or establishing clear, constant and consistent rules: Encouraging the autonomy of our children also means teaching them to manage their screen consumption themselves. A little as we instill in them the importance of eating well (eating 5 portions of fruits and vegetables, eating healthy snacks, limiting foods high in sugar, etc.) we must give them certain guidelines for healthy use of screens. Following the first edition of 5 @ 8 challenge without screens, we did a little Family council in order to decide with the children on the new rules for using screens. Here are the 5 rules of our family relating to the time of use of the screens:
- No screens between 5 p.m. and 8 p.m. on weekdays, unless you have a privilege! (Here, we use the Les Belles Combines privilege coupons, 10 blocks accumulated thanks to General store entitle you to 30 minutes of tablets or television)
- NEVER screens before leaving for school. You need to keep all of your focus for the next day.
- Maximum 30 consecutive minutes of use of screens for the largest and 20 minutes for the smallest.
- Before turning on a screen, make sure you have done enough to adequately stimulate your brain. (We refer to the poster Do you want to turn on a screen?)